I was talking to a couple the other day. I couldn't quite get a handle on the nature of their relationship.
At first I thought it was a man and his mother.
But when I mentioned this to my daughter, who had been with me, she thought the woman was too young to be his mother. I thought she was too old to be his wife.
Here are the facts of the case:
They moved into their house a few years ago.
As far as I know it is just the two of them.
He looked to be around 40. Fit. Full head of auburn hair and a neatly groomed beard and 'stache.
She, I would have guessed, looked closer to 60. Short hair. Grey. Bit of pudge.
As we talked, my kids got mentioned a couple times (as in, 'yeah, I don't have much time for landscaping what with raising 6 kids', or 'yeah, our pool keeps pretty busy what with all our kids'. That kind of thing). But neither of them mentioned kids at all. I was hoping for her to say something along the lines of, 'when my other kids gets together with my son here...'. Or if Julie had been right about husband/wife it might have been, 'it's been quiet here ever since our daughter left for college'. SOMEthing. But I got nothin'.
I never saw any physical signs of affection that would have provided any clues. But if I had I don't know whether I would have been relieved to find out they were married or skeeved at their incestuousness.
So people, help me out here. This is like 'It's Pat' from SNL. I need to find a way to reveal who they are to each other short of whipping out the binoculars and stalking them. Next time I have an interaction with them, what do I say that would force an answer without them even knowing they were under investigation?
For instance, if he's her son, I could perhaps ask him, "So how do you like your big-boy bed?" Or to her, "The library runs a nice Mommy and Me story hour on Saturdays"
If she's his wife, I could drop, "We swing. Do you?"
I don't know. I don't think any of those would work. I need subtlety here. And I need help with it. So give me your suggestions, friends. I won't be able to sleep at night till I know one way or the other....
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A Little History
Quite frankly, I don't know what I was thinking at the time. We went from 3 kids by birth to "oh, let's adopt a 4th" without a whole lot of deliberation.
While adopting said 4th (in Kazakhstan), we met a young man of 8 yrs by the name of Borya. Thought he was a pretty nice kid and years later found out we could adopt him too. Only thing was, he came as a 2-in-1 package with his younger sister Ylia. What the hay, said we, and rushed headlong into the adoption process. Again. To adopt two kids that were 10 and 13 at the time.
Started a blog to keep track of where my head was in this adoption game. When Borya and Ylia arrived home, we were suddenly the proud parents of six kids, ages 9, 10, 11, 11, 13 and 13.
That was back in 2009, but I still blog. I figure what doesn't make us laugh makes us cry, and I'd rather be laughing.
Also? We live on a farm(ish) with a few dozen critters. You're just as likely to read a post about the farming side of things as you are the parenting side. Thought you might want to know in case you have allergies or something.
As for the structure of this blog, I pretty much post on a daily basis, and I tend to be all over the place in what I write about, so if it's nice, neat and compartmentalized you're looking for, be off with you now, you won't find it here.
I do have some structure, though, I'm not a total bohemian. I roll like this:
Mon: Mirth Monday. A little somethin' to make you chuckle.
Tues: Sometimes Adoption Tuesday, sometimes A Tip For Tuesday, sometimes random thoughts.
Weds: Wordless Wednesday. Usually a photo or some artwork from myself or one of my oh-so-talented children.
Thurs: all random, all the time.
Fri: Farm Friday. Speaks for itself.
Sat, Sun: More random musings.
Feel free to explore and don't be shy -- drop me a line to say hello, and be sure to add yourself as a follower. Feeds my ego in a big way. I'm very insecure.
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